‘Gender Queer’

— Incident inspires film ‘A Book By Their Cover’

Scenes from the movie “A Book By Their Cover” which was filmed in Berkshire County.

“[Young people] need to have visibility, and they don’t need to learn about things covertly with shame,” said filmmaker John Tedeschi. “They should be given the same awkward chance of learning about sex, sexuality, sex education, and biology.”

By Shaw Israel Izikson

Inspired by controversial local events, Stockbridge filmmaker John Tedeschi has created the film “A Book By Their Cover.” In an interview with The Berkshire Edge, first-time screenwriter and movie director Tedeschi said that the movie is partially inspired by the controversy surrounding the Great Barrington Police Department’s investigation of a W.E.B. Du Bois Regional Middle School teacher over the book “Gender Queer.”

As of late September, the now-former teacher’s lawsuit over the incident continues to go through the court system. Tedeschi said that while the movie was partially inspired by the incident, other events around the country also influenced the film, including book bans connected to the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer (LGBTQ+) community.

“When I was listening to the meeting at the middle school that was held regarding the book, I felt that there is a need for that book to be available to some people, as long as it is age appropriate,” Tedeschi said.

The movie centers around 12-year-old Samantha, played by actress Eva Ferreira, who discovers a book while staying at her grandparent’s house. “She discovers a book on the bookshelf of their house, and it sort of piqued her curiosity,” Tedeschi said. “It’s a medical book. From that book, she starts to realize and learn things about herself. She thinks that she needs to read the book privately or covertly. As everyone in the house goes to bed, in the middle of the night Smantha comes down the stairs and reads the book.”

Tedeschi said that the medical book she reads was written in 1962. “She goes to the pages that say ‘homosexual’ on them,” Tedeschi said. “She is a little bit dismayed, confused, and scared. Samantha goes to school the next day, and the stress is aggravating and upsetting her. We see her go into the school bathroom, and she’s very frustrated and alone.”

Actress Eva Ferreira stars as 12-year-old Samantha.

Tedeschi explained that Samantha goes home to her parents and asks them questions. “Her parents don’t know all of the answers, but they are very supportive,” Tedeschi said. “They decide to get a book to help her.” Samantha’s parents give her the book “The Every Body Book: The LGBTQ+ Inclusive Guide for Kids about Sex, Gender, Bodies, and Families,” written in 2020 by Rachel Simon and illustrated by Noah Grigni.

Tedeschi said that trouble arises when Samantha takes the book to school. “During the school day, someone sees the book who doesn’t like it,” Tedeschi said. “That person [the school janitor] takes the book, confiscates it, and brings it to the principal. The principal brings the book to the superintendent, and in turn, the superintendent calls the police.”

Film director and writer John Tedeschi plays the character of “Carl Stallings,” a school janitor, who finds Samantha’s copy of “The Every Body Book” during a school day and confiscates it.

The movie then flashes forward to a town meeting during which various opinions are voiced about the book and the investigation.

The town meeting scene in “A Book By Their Cover.”

“But the book is eventually given back to Samantha,” Tedeschi said. “She is a bit shaken, but she feels that she can move forward, figure things out, and then start to feel better in time.”

When asked what he hopes audiences will get out of the film, Tedeschi said, “I hope people realize that resources are needed and are important for young people to feel that they are equal and visible.”

“[Young people] need to have visibility, and they don’t need to learn about things covertly with shame,” Tedeschi said. “They should be given the same awkward chance of learning about sex, sexuality, sex education, and biology. Children sometimes ask their parents how babies are made, and there’s this quick answer. But there’s not always the answer of adoption, or that there are other types of families out there. I feel like we need to be a little bit more updated and knowledgeable about the spectrum of various families and information.”

The film was filmed in Berkshire County. “We filmed a lot of it in Stockbridge,” Tedeschi said. “We were also able to use a middle school in Otis for some scenes.”

Tedeschi said that he is entering “A Book By Their Cover” in various festivals, and that the film will soon be available to watch on the Community Television of South Berkshires public access cable channel.

In an email to The Berkshire Edge after the interview, Tedeschi clarified:

… [T]he film is not a true story, it is not a film that uses the words ‘based on true or actual events’, and the characters are not intended to appear as any actual person. The film was inspired by many things, it is a mirror, as you said, of events but it is not the actual likeness.

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The Easy Peasy Guide to Gender and Sexual Identity Terms

By Michael Krivich

Am I the only one who thinks that, like every day, there is a new term to describe an individual’s gender or sexual identity? Using a tired old sports analogy, keeping a score without a scorecard is hard. That is what it seems like some days with the seemingly constant flow of new terms and definitions.

The genesis of this article was when, the other day, I read a news story about someone who claimed they were abrosexual. Being exposed to a new term, I needed to look it up to understand the content and context of what was written. My curiosity got me thinking about the multitude of terms and subsequent definitions used to describe someone’s sexual orientation and gender identification.

What I learned is that the language surrounding sexual and gender identity is constantly evolving and diverse, reflecting the complexity of human experiences. For transparency, I used OpenAI ChatGPT only for the terms and definitions in the research. It was a great time saver.

Let me be clear: I am not taking any political, religious, biblical, judgemental, or any other position regarding how a person identifies their gender or sexuality. That is their business, period, end discussion.

As a result, here are two lists of terms and definitions as a reference guide regarding gender and sexual identity as I write this article.

Gender Identity

Cisgender (cis): A person whose gender identity aligns with the sex assigned at birth.

Transgender (trans): A person whose gender identity differs from the sex assigned at birth.

Non-binary: A person whose gender identity doesn’t fit within the traditional binary categories of male or female.

Genderqueer: A term used by some individuals whose gender identity doesn’t conform to societal expectations of masculinity or femininity.

Genderfluid: A person’s gender identity may change over time or in different contexts.

Agender: A person who identifies as having no gender or as neutral.

Bigender: A person who identifies as having two gender identities simultaneously or at different times.

Gender nonconforming: A broad term for individuals whose gender expression doesn’t conform to societal norms.

Two-spirit: Some Indigenous North American cultures use the term to describe individuals who embody masculine and feminine qualities.

Demigender: A person whose gender identity is partially but not fully aligned with one’s assigned sex or with the binary gender system.

Pangender: A person whose gender identity encompasses all genders.

Androgynous: A person whose appearance and/or identity blends masculine and feminine characteristics. A non-binary gender identity that is neutral or null.

Gender questioning: A person who is exploring or questioning their gender identity.

Genderflux: A gender identity that fluctuates in intensity.

Intergender: A person whose gender identity is between or a combination of genders.

Multigender: A person who identifies with more than one gender.

Trigender: A person who shifts between three different gender identities.

Gender creative: A term often used for children whose gender expression or identity doesn’t conform to traditional norms.

Transmasculine: A term used to describe individuals who were assigned female at birth but identify more closely with masculinity.

Transfeminine: A term used to describe individuals who were assigned male at birth but identify more closely with femininity.

Sexual Identity

Heterosexual: Attracted to people of the opposite gender.

Homosexual: Attracted to people of the same gender.

Bisexual: Attracted to people of both genders.

Pansexual: Attracted to people regardless of their gender identity or biological sex.

Asexual: Experiencing little or no sexual attraction to others.

Demisexual: Experiencing sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond with someone.

Queer: An umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities who are not heterosexual or cisgender. It can encompass a wide range of identities.

Polysexual: Attracted to multiple genders, but not necessarily all genders.

Fluid: A term used to describe a sexuality that is not fixed and may change over time.

Androsexual/Gynesexual: Attracted to masculinity/femininity regardless of gender identity.

Greysexual: Experiencing sexual attraction rarely or only under specific circumstances.

Lithsexual: Experiencing sexual attraction but not wanting it to be reciprocated.

Skoliosexual: Attracted to non-binary and transgender people.

Sapiosexual: Attracted to intelligence or intellect.

Autosexual: Finding oneself sexually attractive.

Ceterosexual: Attracted to non-binary people.

Reciprosexual: Experiencing sexual attraction only when it is reciprocated.

Abrosexuality:  Describes individuals whose sexual orientation is fluid and may change over time or in different circumstances.

Omnisexuality: A sexual orientation in which a person is attracted to people of all genders, including men, women, nonbinary people, and other gender identities.

It’s important to note that this list is not exhaustive, and new terms and definitions may emerge as our understanding of gender and sexuality evolves. Additionally, individuals may have unique experiences and preferences when describing their gender identity.<

Now, you’ll understand what they are talking about. At least, I will, anyway.

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Sex EDGE-U-cation with Debra Christina Darling – Podcast #135 – 07/01/09

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Hey sex fans,

Debra & KarenAnd now for something completely different.  Ya’ll know how through this Sex EDGE-U-cation podcast series, we’ve been looking at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative sexual lifestyles, right?  And how we’ve been chatting with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the world, right?

Well then, today we take another walk on the wild side.  I bring you Part 1 of my conversation with a true original.  My guest is the one and only Debra Christina Darling.

Debra self-identifies as a straight drag queen.  That’s right you heard me; he’s a straight man who crossdresses, and has done so for most of his life.  But what’s so special about that?  Lots of straight men crossdress.  This is true!  But few are as “out there” and as willing to challenge some of the popular notions of sex and gender held by both those inside, and outside, the crossdressing community.  I can assure you sex fans, Debra has balls and the attitude to match; thus the drag queen designation, don’t cha know.

You won’t want to miss a minute of this exceptional discussion!

Debra and I discuss:

  • Crossdressing vs. transvestism.
  • Her own personal journey and her activism.
  • Famous crossdressers in history.
  • Reasons why people crossdress, and the challenges.
  • The sexual charge of gender specific clothing.
  • Common myths of crossdressing.
  • Advice for parents of crossdressing kids.
  • Male crossdressing / female crossdressing, the double standard.

Debra shares with us several crossdressing resources and invites you to check them out.  The Esprit Conference, Karen Williams’ site, The Emerald City and The Ingersoll Center.

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Sex Advice With An Edge — Podcast #25 — 08/06/07

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Hey sex fans,

I have a really great show for you today. Several enticing questions from the sexually worrisome with an equal number of naughty, clever and oh so informative responses by me! Hey, it’s what I do.

  • Jackye want to know what’s the best position for gettin’ it in the bum.
  • Bob wants another chick with a dick.
  • Shelly is afraid of gettin’ knocked up.
  • Chad’s GF wants him to get a ring in his dick.
  • Anonymous is a young minister who is consumed with guilt and shame.

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