Room With A View

You’ve heard me talk about ’em. You’ve known me direct your attention to ’em. You’ve noticed that they sponsor some of my podcasts. Could there still be a doubt in your mind as to what I think of the AIM (Access Instructional Media) Video Catalog? If there is, you’re simply not paying attention.

OK, let’s eliminate any remaining doubt. These DVDs knock me out. In terms of sex education and sexual enrichment the AIM titles are unparalleled. Over the next few months I’ll be taking an in-depth look at each title in the catalogue. That’s a whole lotta video to review, but I think I’m UP for it…if ya catch my drift.

This week we have two great titles: COUPLES MASTURBATION — and — EVERY COUPLE CAN.

First up is one of the 10 titles from The Ultimate Sex Toy and Masturbation Series. COUPLESdvd517.jpg MASTURBATION ; Phone Sex, Internet Sex and More! — 70 minutes: $19.95

The DVD begins with a quick overview of the entire Toy and Masturbation series. We get a tantalizing taste of what each video has to offer. These explicit mini-trailers will surely get your motor running and prep you for the main event.

I think we can all agree that there’s nothing more fundamental to a happy and healthy sex life than masturbation. Dr. Michael Perry. Ph.D., ACS, the producer of these fine movies, introduces the concept of masturbating with and for your partner. He says this video is all about enticing and informing your partner with your self-pleasuring. If you stop to think about it, there is so much to learn about what gets our partner off; and so much to demonstrate about what gets us off by simply watching and showing our masturbation technique. Think of it as a sexy game of “Show and Tell!”

The sexually experienced couples we meet in this movie bring themselves and each other to shuddering waves of pleasure. First we are treated to a man and a woman masturbating separately. We get some tips on how to vary our self-pleasuring to maximize the joy. Ya know most people are curious about how their partner masturbates, and what may go through his/her mind as he/she diddles. Too bad we don’t often take the time to ask to watch, or even discuss the topic.

Next we visit with a woman who uses several different kinds of vibrators while masturbating with her male partner. Then there’s an example of a beautiful couple manually masturbating each another. Then two more couples pattern their shared masturbation with vibrators. It’s a beautifully filmed celebration of sex.

You can masturbate together despite being apart by using a private internet chat room. See how phone sex can spice up your sex life. Women can learn the joys of toy masturbation with each other. Even learn how to overcome any hesitation or reservation to masturbate with and for your partner in a few easy steps.

This is wonderful tutorial for every couple, but particularly those new to sex, or who want to spice things up a bit. I hasten to add that this video is geared to a heterosexual audience. There’s precious little here that will appeal to same sex couples.

Remember sex fans, this is not porn. While the DVD is sexually explicit, the material is presented in a tasteful, romantic and non-pornographic manner. Kudos to Michael Perry for producing this delightful, female oriented video. And here’s the best part; you get all of this for only $19.95. You simply can’t find a better sex-positive bargain anywhere.

Here’s a tip: for those of you who can’t, for whatever reason, buy this DVD you can rent it for viewing online in Dr Dick’s How To Video Library.

Next we have a selection from the 4-DVD Sex Surrogate Series. EVERY COUPLE CAN; New Sexual Secrets for Improved Intimacy and Overcoming Sexual Problems. — 90 Minutes $19.95

d306.jpgThe DVD begins with a quick overview of the entire Sex Surrogate Series. We get a tantalizing taste of what each video has to offer. These explicit teasers will turn you on and get you ready you for the feature presentation.

This R-rated video has much more of a story line than the previous one. First we meet Sam and Marie, a sexually frustrated couple. Sam turns to a sex surrogate to learn how to overcome his sexual problems in the hopes he’ll be able to save his marriage. Sam’s friend Trevor and his wife are having sexual difficulties too. What a surprise! 😉

This video introduces the viewer to a wealth of sex-positive information. It’s like getting the basics of sex therapy on a thoroughly enjoyable and non-threatening DVD. The viewer learns right along with Sam and Trevor. Some of the topics covered are — sensate focus, lasting longer, female and male genital anatomy, effective communication, overcoming erection problems and becoming more easily orgasmic.

Basically this video shows how easily and enjoyable it is for everyone to lean how to be a better lover. That’s right sex fans; great sex can be learned.

This is an exceptional tutorial for any person, coupled or not, who is interested in learning the fundamentals of human sexual interaction. While this video is geared to a heterosexual audience, there is plenty of sound information that transcends sexual orientation. I highly recommend this title to my straight, bi and gay audience.

I want to underscore what I said at the beginning of this review; this movie is R-rated. The sexual material is presented in a frank, up front manner, but the visuals are decidedly soft and non-confrontational. This is the ideal starting point for someone, or couple, who is unfamiliar, or perhaps uncomfortable, with sexually explicit material.

My hat is off to Michael Perry for producing this thoughtful, female oriented video. And here’s the kicker, you get thousands of dollars worth of sex therapy for only $19.95. How does he do it?

Here’s a tip: for those of you who can’t buy this DVD, for whatever reason, you can rent it for viewing online in Dr Dick’s How To Video Library.

Strangers In The Night, Part 1

And now, we turn our attention to our first crop of anonymous submissions.

Name: MIke P
Gender:
Age: 25
Location: Los Angeles
My girlfriend needs to watch lesbian porn to get off and sometimes kicks me out of the bedroom to masturbate by herself. Initially I was turned on by her desire to watch porn — but now — it’s become a blockage. She always needs porn. I am frustrated and to make things worse — she has started abusing me through financial manipulation. I have to pay her rent — pay for her food, pay everything — and she never gives me nookie.
Should I leave this woman?

Hey Mike,

Time to wake up, fella! Your “girlfriend” — and you notice I put that in quotes — is decidedly not YOUR girlfriend, and possibly not any man’s girlfriend. I’m gonna go way out on a limb here and say; I think your “girlfriend” is a certifiable, died-in-the wool, muff-divin’, coozie-lovin’ lesbitarian. All that’s really left for her to do to make the picture perfectly clear…even to you, is to show up one day in a mullet and a plaid flannel shirt. Holy cow, mike, how is it that you are missing the obvious?

Listen, bub, it’s clear to me, you’re excess baggage. She keeps you around for comic relief…oh and to foot the bill.

Should you leave this woman, you ask. Honey, she’s beaten you to the punch on that one. She’s long gone and left you way behind, at least emotionally and sexually. All that’s left for you to do is find the door and say good-bye to this embarrassing situation.

Good luck!

Name: leslie
Gender:
Age: 46
Location: Brisbane
Will bicycling make me impotent?

YIKES Leslie, what kind of bike riding are you doing that would put such a notion in your head?

My initial response to your question, of course, was a wisecrack. “Sure, bike riding will make you impotent if you get your balls caught in the spokes. Throw those things over your shoulder when you ride, for christ sake!”

Then I thought to myself, “Wait, what does Leslie mean by impotent?” I know lots of people confuse and/or conflate the two very different concepts of impotency and sterility. So maybe this is an opportunity to sort this out some.

Impotence is characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection. And I suppose extreme bike riding, like the kind I see on TV, could possibly cause this condition. Especially, if you were knocking your cock around enough to cause your darling little willie serious injury.

Male sterility, on the other hand, is the inability of the male reproductive system (a guys’s balls, basically) to produce enough (or even any live) sperm for the purpose of impregnation. The reason I bring this up is, I know fertility specialists are very concerned about men wearing tight-fitting underwear and pants for long periods of time. (We used to call these cheap hotel pants — there’s not ballroom! Get it?) Tight fitting garments elevate a man’s balls to the base of his pelvis, which in turn increases the temperature in his balls. Too much heat kills our little juniors, don’t cha know!

The reason evolution designed our gonads to reside outside our bodies and actually hang off of and away from our bodies is so that all our cute little sperm buddies can stay relatively cool and comfortable till they blissfully shoot out of our dick into a vagina, ass-hole, condom or Kleenex.

Tighty-whities and all such things, particular those obscenely clingy Spandex — which is basically plastic — making things even hotter — bike shorts are notorious sperm killers! So in a way, Leslie, yes, biking can make you sterile if not impotent.

Good Luck!

PS: take a look at this:

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