Masturbation May Help With Menopause Symptoms

“Self-pleasure offers an effective, accessible tool.”

With symptoms like hot flashes, trouble sleeping, and vaginal dryness in the mix, menopause can be a difficult experience for many women. However, there are treatment options available, including hormone therapy and lifestyle tweaks. Now, new research has pinpointed a lifestyle hack that can help women struggling with symptoms of menopause: masturbation.

That’s the major takeaway from early research released by the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University on September 16. Of course, this is an unusual treatment plan and it’s understandable to have questions about how, exactly, this all works. Here’s what’s behind all of this.

Meet the expert: Women’s health expert Jennifer Wider, MD.

What did researchers find?

Researchers, who conducted the surveys in partnership with in partnership with sexual wellbeing company the Lovehoney Group and its Womanizer brand, did so over two phases. The first phase surveyed 1,500 American adults between the ages of 18 and 88 to look at overall public knowledge about menopause. In phase two, the scientists surveyed 1,500 women between the ages of 40 and 65 to learn more about their experiences with menopause.

In the first phase, the researchers found that more than 75 percent of women knew that menopause was the permanent end of having a period. However, they also discovered that very few women would identify the symptoms of menopause.

In phase 2, the researchers discovered that 36.2 percent of women going through menopause said that they had an improvement in their symptoms when they masturbated. But while one in 10 women said they used self-pleasure as the main way they coped with menopausal symptoms, 46 percent of women said they would be open to trying masturbation to relieve their symptoms if it was recommended by a healthcare provider.

Can masturbation relieve menopause symptoms?

It’s important to point out that the researchers didn’t explore whether masturbation can relieve symptoms of menopause. Instead, they found that some women said it helped with their symptoms. (But this wasn’t studied in a lab or anything.)

That said, there are some theories on why this could help. “Masturbation has been shown to improve mood, improve sleep, and promote vaginal health,” says women’s health expert Jennifer Wider, MD. “This is why it may help alleviate some of the symptoms of menopause.”

By the way, Wider says that having an orgasm via sex may create similar results in some women. “In others who are experiencing vaginal dryness, intercourse will be painful and getting to the point of orgasm may be difficult and not have the same desired results,” she adds.

“This survey shows self-pleasure offers an effective, accessible tool for menopausal symptom relief, which is important to integrate with existing care strategies,” said Cynthia Graham, PhD, senior scientist at the Kinsey Institute, added in a statement.

Do doctors recommend masturbation for menopause?

As of now, it’s not common for doctors to recommend masturbation for menopause. However, it’s worth noting that five percent of the women surveyed by the Kinsey Institute said that their doctors suggested masturbation as a possible way to manage their symptoms. So, clearly some doctors are recommending it.

Ultimately, Wider says this is worth trying if you’re interested. “This is a risk-free recommendation and has little downside— and it has potential to alleviate some unwanted menopausal symptoms,” she says.

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September 16, 2024May 10, 2026

Is It Possible To Masturbate Too Much?

— We Asked A Sex Therapist

By Kelly Gonsalves

Remember that time on Sex and the City when Charlotte received a rabbit vibrator and fell so in love with it that her friends needed to stage an intervention?

It was a fun and goofy storyline, but it does operate under the assumption that it’s possible to masturbate “too much.” So…is it?

Listen. Sometimes you get your hands on a sex toy that just blows your mind, and you need to spend basically every night with it for a few weeks.

Or you’re just having a bit of a hard month, and you just really need to blow off steam in the evenings with a little help from your vibrator. And sometimes there is no reason—you’re just horny, or in the mood, or feeling it, so you go for it. Often.

No one’s judging! But in case you’ve ever wondered if you’re overdoing it, we reached out to sex and relationship therapist Shadeen Francis, LMFT, to get the lowdown on your downtown time.

Can you masturbate too much?

“Self-pleasure is a very low-risk sexual activity,” Francis says.

That said, it’s possible to do anything in excess, including masturbation. Just like you can exercise too much or wash your hands too much—even though those are generally great habits—you can also masturbate too much.

“If your masturbation habits are causing you mental, emotional, relational, or physical distress, that is an indicator that you may be masturbating more than is currently healthy for you,” she explains.

She emphasizes that pleasure is healthy, and most people don’t have to worry about overdoing it.

In fact, the guilt around masturbation is much more likely to negatively affect someone’s well-being than the actual masturbating. “Sexual health includes your awareness of your sexual needs and feeling empowered to act on them safely,” she explains.

But, as Francis points out, if you’re masturbating with a frequency that’s causing physical harm (that is, you’re noticing soreness or bruising) or negative impact on other parts of your life (like feeling consistently distracted by thoughts of masturbating at work such that you can’t accomplish anything), that’s a sign that it’s time to take a pause, evaluate the role masturbation is playing in your life, and potentially make some changes.

It’s also possible for your body to get used to a certain type of stimulation, Francis notes—for example, the feeling of a vibrator on your clitoris or the rhythm of your own hand on your shaft. ”

They may notice difficulty maintaining their [erection] or reaching orgasm in partnered sex if it doesn’t mirror what they do when they’re alone,” she says, but adds that this issue is easily solved by making sure to mix things up while masturbating or bringing some of your solo activities into partnered sex.

(Don’t underestimate the thrill of mutual masturbation, people!) If you want, it may also help to pause on masturbation for a bit before a partnered sexual experience.

Signs you’re masturbating too much

How much masturbation is too much will depend on the individual, Francis says. A routine that feels great for one person might feel like way too much for another person.

Rather than focusing on frequency, focus on how the behavior makes you feel and how it is (or isn’t) affecting your life.

Here are some signs Francis looks for to know if a person’s current masturbation practice might not be healthy for them:

It feels like a need instead of a choice.
It no longer feels pleasurable.
You’re experiencing pain, numbness, or loss of pleasing sensation.
There is a significant decline in your availability for sexual presence with partners.
You are struggling to keep up with your responsibilities because of how often you masturbate.
You’re feeling mental, emotional, or relational distress around masturbating.

“The general rule of thumb is that if something is causing unintended pain, you should take that as an indicator that something is wrong,” she says.

If any of the above feel like they may apply to you or if you simply find yourself continuing to worry about your behavior, consider reaching out to a sex therapist or another qualified sexual health professional who can help you take a closer look at what’s going on.

The takeaway

There’s nothing wrong with masturbating a lot. Most people masturbate because it brings them a little pleasure, relaxation, or relief at the end of a long day or because they just want to have fun connecting with their body.

Now, if you find your masturbation feels less relaxing and more stress-inducing, or if it feels “out of control” in any way, it’s worth checking in with a professional to make sure everything’s OK.

But if you generally feel anywhere from amazing to neutral before and after masturbating and aren’t noticing any negative effects on other parts of your life, you probably don’t need to worry. Regular masturbation is a common and generally healthy pastime, so if it’s feeling good, have at it.

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May 24, 2010June 1, 2026

Big Fat Q&A Show — Podcast #207 — 05/24/10

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Hey sex fans,

We take a bit of a break from The Erotic Mind podcast series today to attend to the unsightly buildup in both my voicemail and email in-boxes. And you know there’s nothing more embarrassing that unsightly buildup in your box, huh?

Josh shoots meth in his dick. But there’s been an accident.
Jen has a BF that can’t get her off.
Brandi has been going along for the ride for 10 years!
Coral is starving to death…sexually.
Billy is in the throws of andropause and he’s clueless.
Betty’s vibrator broke…inside her!

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll fine me in the podcast section, obviously, or just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: DR DICK’S — HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

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August 31, 2009May 28, 2026

Sex Advice With An Edge — Podcast #149 — 08/31/09

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Hey sex fans,

women_bath I guess everyone is enjoying The Erotic Mind
series as much as me. So yeah for that! Apparently you love to listen to my chats with these brilliant artists and authors as much as I enjoy interviewing them. But while I’m busy doing that, my in-box and voicemail gets clogged with messages from the sexually worrisome looking for advice. And ya know what? They’ve come to the right palace; and so have you. Today’s show is all Q&A.

So make yourself comfortable it’s gonna be a very interesting ride.

Giggles says she’s gettin off on Joy.
Anonymous wants to learn how to blow himself.
Celia thinks her clit is too little.
Deborah wants the low-down on open relationships!
Then there’s a whole bunch of quickies.

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Look for all of my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

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August 11, 2008May 16, 2026

Nikol Hasler, Part 2 — Podcast #75 — 08/11/08

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Hey sex fans,

I know you’ve all been dying for this, but keep your collective shirts on already, why don’t cha.

Without further delay, here’s Part 2 of my interview with the host of the Midwest Teen Sex Show, that darling of the internet tubes — Nikol Hasler.

Oh, and by the way, if you missed Part 1 of this interview, look for Podcast #74 in the Podcast Archive at the top of the sidebar to your right.

Nikol and I talk about:

A parent’s responsibility for the sex education of their kids.
Female masturbation.
Male masturbation.
The show’s enormous popularity.
Collaborating with her costars.
Being an unlikely sex educator.
The future of MWTSS.

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: DR DICK’S HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.

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May 30, 2008June 18, 2026

O JOY!

Look for my new

Product Review! — SHARE by Fun Factory

“For those of you who have yet to figure this out, just by lookin at this marvel, SHARE is a wearable double dildo made of 100% medical-grade Silicone. This is surely a toy for two.

Check it out, the vagina owin’ partner inserts the shorter, more bulbous end into her who-ha. The shape of this insertable part is sure to stimulate her G-spot, don’t cha know. But that’s not all; there is an upward curve to the protruding cock-end of this device that’ll sure enough wind up smack-dab on your clit once the bulbous insert is in place. But wait, there’s more!.”

SHARE by Fun Factory — $124.00

Whoa sex fans, look what the folks at Fun Factory sent me!

What we have here is what they call SHARE. It’s big, it’s shareable and it is oh so purple (also comes in black and pink). It is also pretty fuckin’ revolutionary, don’t cha know, but more about that in a minute.

Once I had this baby in my hands, I knew for certain that I would be hard pressed to review this device on my own. I’d have to find someone, configured slightly different than myself, if ya catch my drift. I simply don’t have the right parts to put this amazing apparatus through its paces and to review it properly.

When faced with a situation like this, I inevitably turn to my best gal pal, my #1 friend of the lesbian persuasion — Joy. Those who visit Dr Dick Sex Advice often probably already have heard me speak of Joy. For those of you who don’t visit here often, you’ve missed out. Ya see; Joy is my go-to person for all things vaginal. Not only does she have her very own pussy, she sure as hell knows her way around other pussies as well.

I rang her up the other day and told her she needed to rush right over. She wanted to know what was up. I told her it was toy review time. She said, “Ho hum! Another prostate stimulator?” I said, “No way, girlfriend, it’s a strapless strap-on!” I could practically hear her mind straining to wrap around that oxymoron. “Say what?” “You heard me. You gotta check this out; you’re not gonna believe your eyes.”

I happen to know that my pal, Joy, is a strap-on kinda dyke. Some lesbians aren’t, and I’m like totally OK with that. I also happen to know that Joy, bein’ the big gal she is, has had a hard time finding a comfortable strap-on harness that fits properly and does not bind or crimp. (I hear from a lot of women who like the idea of a strap-on, but find them too confining and uncomfortable.) Even when Joy found a relatively comfortable harness, it still cramped her style. She told me that she just figured that this was the price a chick paid for the pleasure of pluggin’ someone like a guy.

All the traditional difficulty and discomfort of a harness strap-on vanish with the truly revolutionary SHARE. I kid you not. Joy immediately realized this remarkable toy’s potential. Once she laid eyes on this purple wonder, she proclaimed with delight; “Damn, if this don’t give you all the privilege of a penis without devaluing a vagina.” Leave it to Joy to sum things up in a single sentence.

For those of you who have yet to figure this out, just by lookin at this marvel, SHARE is a wearable double dildo made of 100% medical-grade Silicone. This is surely a toy for two.

Check it out, the vagina ownin’ partner inserts the shorter, more bulbous end into her who-ha. The shape of this insertable part is sure to stimulate her G-spot, don’t cha know. But that’s not all; there is an upward curve to the protruding cock-end of this device that’ll sure enough wind up smack-dab on your clit once the bulbous insert is in place. But wait, there’s more!

Once the vagina owin’ partner has the bulbous end of SHARE properly situated in her pussy; she now has an ample 6+ inches of veiny cock to pretty much use as would any proud owner of a real schlong. And that, my friends, is about some of the best news I’ve heard in quite some time.

Kudos to the Fun Factory folks for coming up with this amazing design. I’m gonna go way out on a limb here and guess that SHARE was invented by a woman or women. I just can’t see a man, even a cool, with it, female pleasin’ kinda dude puttin’ 2 and 2 together to make somethin’ this remarkable. I could be wrong, but I don’t think I am.

Anyhow, back to Joy and her toy. Since I wasn’t about to hand over this treasure without something in return; I told Joy that I wanted a blow-by-blow description of her usage. She was to spare me none of the gory details. “It’s a deal!” She said as she sashayed out the door.

It was only a matter of hours till I received the first bulletin. Joy wanted to remind me to tell you that ya can only use water-based lube with a silicone toy like this. Good point! Silicone-based lubes will dissolve your silicone toys.

Next, she said that having the SHARE implanted in her pussy was like nothing else she’d ever experienced. She said there was no comparison to her strap-on. “With a traditional strap-on, you have something ON you — comfortable or not. With the SHARE, you have something IN you. And that makes all the difference in the world.” She continued; “I now understand why men swagger about when they parade around with a hardon. As I walked around with my big purple weenie swingin’ out in front of me, I could feel it rooted inside me. As it bounced it stimulated my G-spot and clit.”

She did say that the new sensations — the protruding cock and the fullness inside her took some getting used to. She said she discovered the SHARE really worked her PC muscles, which is an added and unanticipated benefit. She couldn’t wait to pound her GF and then flip-flop for a reciprocal pounding BY her. You go girls!

A couple days later, I got the entire low-down. Joy was full of superlatives — awesome, amazing, and cocky were some of the words she used. “The GF and I never felt so close. One thing though, while I had no problem inserting the “wearer’s” end in me; Barbara did. It’s a pretty hefty girth. But then again, she’s just a little thing!” “OK, thanks for sharing,” I responded. “Well you told me not to spare you the gory details, remember?” I had to chuckle.

Because silicone products are nonporous and hypoallergenic, care and cleaning are a snap. For everyday cleanup a mild soap and water wash is fine. However, if you’re gonna share your SHARE, or any other toy, sterilizing is recommended. Drop the item into a pot of boiling water for a couple minutes and then it’s ready to go again. Hey, ya can even pop this puppy in the dishwasher for a no fuss, no muss clean up. That’s what’s so great about silicone. Undoubtedly, it costs a bit more, but it is sooo worth it.

One final word. Just in case some of you need this spelled out for you; the SHARE is the ideal toy for your average straight couple too. You don’t have to be queer to take delight in switching roles. And ladies, won’t your man be surprised when he climbs in bed, pulls back the covers to gaze upon your loveliness only to discover that you have a big purple (black or pink) cock protruding from your pussy.

Pegging your man’s ass, like the bitch he is, has never been so fun and easy. No straps! No harness! Simply insert your part in you and tap his booty till your heart’s content!

ENJOY

May 2, 2008June 18, 2026

Happy Masturbation Month!

It’s May! It’s National Masturbation Month!

YES darling, there is such a thing!

Tra la! It’s May!
The lusty month of May!
That darling month when ev’ryone throws
Self-control away.
It’s time to do
A wretched thing or two,
And try to make each precious day
One you’ll always rue!
It’s May! It’s May!
The month of “yes you may,”
The time for ev’ry frivolous whim,
Proper or “im.”
It’s wild! It’s gay!
A blot in ev’ry way.
The birds and bees with all of their vast
Amorous past
Gaze at the human race aghast,
The lusty month of May.
— Alan Jay Lerner

Let’s all MASTURBATE!

2008 Masturbate-a-thon

—— PARTICIPATE TODAY ——
San Francisco or Portland

Or just play with yourself right where you are!

February 25, 2008May 15, 2026

Kypris and Steven Jay, Part 1 — Podcast #52 — 02/25/08

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Hey sex fans,

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT!

I have some very exciting news. This week we inaugurate a brand-spankin’ new podcast format that will become a regular feature of many upcoming programs. From time to time, we will depart from our usual question and answer arrangement and bring you lively and informative interviews with interesting people making news in the field of sexuality.

This week I am pleased to bring you Part 1 of my interview with two masters in the practice of Tantric Sex. Kypris and Steven Jay are the founders of YabYummy.com, an online resource for people seeking a tantric path to sexual wholeness.

They share their thoughts about:

The meaning of Tantra
Ejaculation control
Healing fear, guilt and shame
Multiple Orgasms
Female Masturbation

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January 21, 2008May 15, 2026

Sex Advice With An Edge — Podcast #47 — 01/21/08

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Hey sex fans,

I have a nice load of provocative questions from the sexually worrisome. And I respond with an equal number of astounding, amiable and oh so informative responses! Hey, it’s what I do.

Amy’s vibrator don’t work no how!
Dan is dating a woman with a blockage. But what kind of blockage?
Jon’s meds eliminates his spooge output. Pity that!
LD’s partner died, but he wants to get back in the swing of things.

FINALLY, ANOTHER SEXUAL ENRICHMENT TUTORIAL

The Big Tease; How to Strip for Someone Special

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December 22, 2007June 12, 2026

Winter Solstice Worries

Before we begin today I want to send out hearty holiday greetings to all my pagan friends. Here in the northern hemisphere — HAPPY Winter SOLSTICE! Ya’ll in the southern hemisphere — HAPPY Summer SOLSTICE!

Some of us overlook these important and most ancient of festivals. Our culture’s Judeo-Christian bias blurs the origins of most of the religious observances we still take for granted today — like Christmas. When Christianity became the dominant influence in our culture it co-opted the trappings of these festivals, robbed them of their heavily laden sexual context and mercilessly persecuted their adherents. And that, to my mind, is a fuckin’ pity. What a different world this would be if that hadn’t happened.

Name: BJ
Gender: Female
Age: 23
Location:PA
I’ve been sexually active for several years now and have yet to reach an orgasm. Oral sex, intercourse nor masturbation have been effective. Is there something wrong with me, what might help?

I’d be very much surprised if there was actually something physically wrong with you. But you clearly have some difficulty letting go. And simply put, an orgasm is letting go of built up sexual tension.

Lot of preorgasmic women don’t feel entitled to an orgasm, for one reason or another. Other women are simply unversed on how to make the big “O” happen in their own fine self. Sometimes it’s a combination of both resistance and a lack of know how.

I used to have this client, a woman in her late 30’s, the mother of three and a devote Catholic. She was preorgasmic too. Her big stumbling block was fear. You got it; fear of having an orgasm. She had heard from other women, over the years, how powerful orgasms were and how pleasurable they were. My client somehow got it in her head that if she were to ever let go and give up that long-awaited screamin’ meme, her entire world would collapse. She would become a sex addict, neglect her children, divorce her husband and turn her back on God…the whole enchilada.

With that kind of mindset, this little lady wasn’t gonna let herself cum no how.

I had to reassure her that, as delightful as orgasms are, they are not like crack cocaine. I told her there was no chance that she’d fly to pieces as a mother, wife and friend of Jesus if she were to ever squeeze one out. I had to keep repeating this over and over till it finally sank in. You talk about hardheaded! In the end, she had her precious orgasm, joined the ranks of the sexually satisfied and lived happily ever after. …Well, I can’t honestly say about the happily ever after part.

Back to you BJ, I don’t suppose there’s any way you could have one of your gal-pals show you how it’s done, is there? The reason I ask is most guys learn how to choke the chicken by watching, or being instructed by another guy. Us men folk are really good about doin that for one another. Women folk, on the other hand, don’t seem to do this for one another as much. Which is a freakin’ pity, if ya ask me.

If you can’t (or won’t) get a pal to show you the finer points of proper pussy pleasuring, I have another suggestion for you. Mozie on over to DR DICK’S HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY and check out a swell instructional video. Do a quick search for “female masturbation” and let the experts show you a thing or two. You’ll be so glad you did.

Write back again and let me know how things go. If you’re not successful, I still have a few other tricks up my sleeve.

My wife fantasizes about cum swapping with me and forcing me to lick my freshly deposited spooge out of her vagina, but every time we try, just after I ejaculate, I loose my nerve. I have tried to taste my own cum before, and it really does turn me on, but there seems to be a huge difference between fantasizing and doing. I love my wife and want to fulfill her fantasy. How do I get over my apprehension to gulping my own love juice?
Regards, Chris

OMG! What are you, trying to do make me sick? Just kidding! What a spunky little spitfire you’re married to, Chris. Nasty little piggy sex, my favorite kind! You guys GO!“

Vaga-felching” or “lickin’ a creampie” is a relatively obscure fetish. The gays are more likely to felch, cuz they’re like so into the whole jizz thing, don’t cha know. But Vaga-felching is a-completely-nother thing…especially if it’s a straight dude doing the felching.

Ya see, a guy is always up for layin’ down and nice slime trail, but lickin it up again, especially after it’s been loitering about in the inner-regions of a pussy…why that’s pretty much enough to make most straight dudes hurl.

I suppose you’re slightly ahead of the ballgame, considering you say you find the taste of your own issue a turn on. That’s a good start. The big hurdle, of course, is having the same desires post-ejaculation as you do pre-ejaculation. And therein lies the rub, darlin’.

When we’re in the throws of passion, when we’re totally aroused, we get in this state. It’s just like a state of suspended animation, only completely different. 😉 Our sense of sight, smell, touch and taste are muted and our judgment is impaired too. Which allows us to do all sorts of things we wouldn’t consider if our dick wasn’t raging. You know the old saying; “A stiff dick has no conscience,” don’t cha? Well, it’s kinda like that.

Anyhow, all the nasty piggy little things we can groove on with a hardon, often evaporate once we’ve shot our load. And seein’ that ya gotta shoot your load in order to make a creampie, the fetching thereafter becomes considerably less tantalizing once you do…if ya catch my drift.

I suppose you could push past the hesitation you have with a little mind game. You could try to convince yourself that what was alluring before the creampie was made is the same thing as after. But then you’d have to override your reinstated judgment and sense of sight, smell, touch and taste to do so.

Get it? Got it? Good!

Hey there,
My question involves my uncircumcised penis. I am 20 years old and pretty sexually active when I’m involved with a girl. I’m curious because is my head, underneath my foreskin, is extremely sensitive. Only in the past year or so have I been working to stretch my foreskin over my head, and now that I’ve successfully exposed my dick, it’s sensitive as hell, almost to the point to where it hurts to touch. The other thing is that when I come close to ejaculation when masturbating/being masturbated, that it doesn’t bother me anymore if my head is touched. Is this normal for a circumcised male? I really am not educated about how an uncircumcised penis is supposed to be/work and really can’t talk to anyone about it. Please help educate me!
–Jason

Lucky the man with a natural, intact dick! A super-sensitive dickhead is the birthright of every male. Unfortunately, some of us never get to know the excruciating sensitivity that uncut men know all their lives. Pity that!

You are correct to notice that as you approach an orgasm, your dickhead can receive more touch then when you are not aroused. Like I was sayin’ to the guy above you, “…when we’re in the throws of passion, when we’re totally aroused, we get in this state. Our senses of sight, smell, touch and taste are muted…”This is nature’s way of desensitizing the very tool we’d need to bring our pleasure to fruition — entering a pussy and depositing our seed there.

Once that task is complete, the normal sensitivity resumes. And since our dick can’t tell between a simple jerk off session, some fine gay sex and an attempt to impregnate a female it just behaves the same way each time we play with our thingy.So sounds to me like everything on your unit is working perfectly well.

Enjoy the gift you have!

Name: lup92
Gender: Male
Age: 15
Location: England
I’m 15 and masturbate often but have had no form of sex although my girlfriend wants to start. however my penis and scrotum have extremely small lumps all over. I also have a purple red large lump on the rim of my bellend. what do i do? should i start? or do i risk giving something to my girlfriend?

Here’s the thing about lumps and bumps and discolorations of the skin anywhere on your body, especially on your precious willie, pup. They are signs that all is not well. Do us all a big favor and have your johnson looked at by a physician right away. This is nothing to fool around with.

Everything you describe could be completely harmless, but you don’t want to take the chance that it isn’t. And here’s a tip: don’t do it for your girlfriend. DO IT FOR YOU! It’s your dick, you gotta lean how to take care of it. And there’s no time like the present to start properly lookin after it.

There is one more thing. And I’m gonna be as blunt as I know how. If you think you’re old enough to fuck, you’re old enough to know about condoms and how to use them. If ya don’t, you’re just a dumb kid who might function like a grown-up, but who doesn’t know how to behave like one. And I don’t want to believe that about you.

What it is with young people (old people too) who are still fuckin’ clueless about unprotected sex in this day and age? I’ve been reading the celebrity gossip here in the States lately. All the whoha about Jamie Lynn Spears, Britney’s 16-year-old sister, gettin knocked up. WTF? Is anyone paying attention?

I have nothing against younger people being sexual. That pretty much is to be expected. But I am totally opposed to kids having kids! Like I said, if you’re old enough to swing it around, you’re old enough to know how to swing it responsibly.

Good luck ya’ll