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— And How To Tell if You Have It BDE isn’t literal—it’s a state of mind. By Rebecca Strong WHAT DO IDRIS Elba, Stanley Tucci, Jeff Goldblum, and Rihanna all have in common? BDE—or “big dick energy”—according to people on the Internet. After quickly becoming a breakout search term in 2018 (we’ll get to that …
By DAISY HENRY Keep that good thing going. If there was a way to achieve better orgasms, would you take it? Sure, sex and pleasure shouldn’t always be about the big ‘O’ (in fact, there’s a solid case for rethinking that approach completely), but the temptation surely remains. Stressed? Orgasm. Horny? Orgasm. Tired? Orgasm. Whether …
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By Mark Travers “If you’re too busy for date night, you’re too busy.” These are the words of Drs. John and Julie Gottman, renowned researchers, therapists and marriage counselors. While they suggest there are multiple factors that contribute to a thriving marriage, they place particular emphasis on the role of date nights. According to their …
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— Psychedelic Sex Therapy 101 I asked a doctor who’s an expert in the treatment By Sarah Stiefvater Whether through the iconic Dr. Ruth Westheimer (RIP) or the Netflix hit Sex Education, you’ve probably heard of sex therapy. But have you heard of psychedelic sex therapy? It’s basically traditional sex therapy that integrates the use …
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“Self-pleasure offers an effective, accessible tool.” By Korin Miller With symptoms like hot flashes, trouble sleeping, and vaginal dryness in the mix, menopause can be a difficult experience for many women. However, there are treatment options available, including hormone therapy and lifestyle tweaks. Now, new research has pinpointed a lifestyle hack that can help women …
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By Melissa Febos A friend confided to me recently that she was burned out on dating. Cruising the apps in midlife felt humiliating, and she repeatedly confronted the same obstacles in her relationships. I told her I had faced similar challenges, until I spent a year intentionally celibate. She pointed out that a year was …
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— These titles can offer insight, whether you’re polycurious or already exploring. By Hope Reese When Mel Cassidy first became curious about nonmonogamy, there weren’t many helpful resources. Most of the books focused on the transition from monogamy to nonmonogamy, but Cassidy, who goes by them/them pronouns, was “freshly divorced, hadn’t really dated as an …
By Katie Simon “If I liked women, I’d never date a man again,” my friend Caroline said to me after a recent breakup. Bemoaning the straight dating scene, she seemed genuinely confused as to why someone bisexual—like me—would date men at all. And, really, what was stopping me from never sleeping with a guy again? …
Plato’s Symposium, Anselm Feuerbach, 1869 By Matthew Sharpe It was probably inevitable, but is deeply sad, that Plato’s Symposium (circa 380 BCE), has been drawn into the culture wars. A dialogue of great complexity and elegance, the book is one of the principal sources of the Greek philosopher’s views on love and beauty. There are …
— For 20 years, Modern Love has recorded people’s lives. The column has also had real-life reverberations on readers. By Miya Lee “So what have you learned about love?” people often ask when they find out I’m an editor of Modern Love. “Oh, you know,” I say, “a lot.” Or, “Most clichés are accurate.” Or …